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Have, Do, Be: The Secret to Becoming Everything You Ever Dreamed

A Transformational Approach to Behavior and Manifestation

I've seen the movie “White Chicks” no less than 50 times. Seriously. I can’t even listen to Vanessa Carlton’s “1,000 Miles” without fighting the urge to re-enact this scene.

That is how I’ve always conceptualized Terry Crews: a talented comedic actor, known for roles in Everybody Hates Chris, Friday after Next, and Brooklyn 99. And the muscles. Of course – we all know the muscles.

Imagine my surprise in finding out that in addition to being an actor, he’s also an incredible artist, a prolific thinker, and as of recent, a major activist in curbing sexual assault and toxic masculinity - considered by many to be the Hardest Working Man in Hollywood.

His podcast with Tim Ferris gave way to teachings that were possibly the most profound things I've learned in 2018. I'm saying that without a hint of exaggeration - go listen to it if you haven't heard it.

But one of the lessons he introduced that has stuck with me was the concept of “have, do, be: how to have, do, and be all you want.”

As he explained it in Tribe of Mentors: “When you decide who and what you are, you make decisions that align with that. We only get what we desire most and we must apply ourselves with laser-like focus upon a goal, task, or project. “have” you must “do” and in order to “do” you must “be” and this process is immediate. Although it takes time for these desires to manifest in our material world, you must see the thing you desire as completed, finished, and real, now. The better you can do this, the more you can accomplish.”

He details this example in his own life:

In the beginning, he was poor. He didn't have extra money to save or invest. He didn't have much of anything. But then one day, he decided that he was a rich man. Not tomorrow. Not someday. That day. And he asked himself: "Now that I am a rich man, what would a rich man do?" And by doing the things that rich men do, he (eventually) became a rich man.

Have. Do. Be.

I’ve been applying this in my own life this quarter.

It’s easy to call myself an “aspiring” something.

An aspiring entrepreneur. An aspiring writer.

But when you add this descriptor, you give yourself mental permission to engage in short-term or unhealthy habits.

It’s fine for aspiring writers to skip writing for long periods of time. That’s part of the process, right?

Besides, no one is counting on you to be consistent, yet, right?

It’s fine for struggling entrepreneurs to stay up all night, and eat whatever is close – it’s part of the grind, right?

It even applies to money: if I’m an aspiring millionaire, then it’s okay for me to waste hundreds of dollars on nonsense. I’ll get more money in the future.

But when you decide that you are who you are TODAY - and there is no tomorrow, you have to re-evaluate everything. I woke up everyday and asked myself:

"I am a successful writer. What would a successful writer do?"

Write consistently, even if it sucks, because you can always edit later. Publish as much as possible.

And so I do.

"I’m a seven-figure entrepreneur. What would a seven-figure entrepreneur do?"

Make sure that I get high-quality sleep, exercise, and proper nutrition so my brain can be in optimal shape to make major strategic decisions. Ignore short-term tactics like what to post on Instagram – focus on building timeless, evergreen content on a platform that I control.

And so I do.

"I’m a millionaire. What would a millionaire do?"

Avoid short-term distractions and “opportunities.” Continue investing for the long haul, consistently, without fail. And so I do.

The progress that I’ve made towards my goals since that mindset shift occurred is remarkable.

Of course – if you don’t KNOW what those people would do, then go back, find the masters, and study and learn from them.

But once you know, and you decide that You Are, and you DO as if You Are, You Become.

There is no tomorrow. You are who you are TODAY. Be all that you say you are, NOW. And you will become.

Have. Do. Be.

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